Men and women of all walks of life enjoy anal sex as an alternative to everyday lovemaking. Anal sex, practiced properly, is as safe as any other kind of sex, and it can be extremely pleasurable. The rectum and the rim of the anus are all rich sources of nerve endings. Postillioning is inserting a finger(s) into the anus, and may include massaging it and the rectum. Postillioning is a great way to help someone explore their rear and learn to loosen the anal opening.
The best way for you to insert a finger into your partner's anus
When your partner is getting aroused, begin to gently probe their anal opening with a finger tip, bearing in mind that you should have already lubed everything. Opening up for anal penetration can be a very intimate act, so respect the fact that you are being given the opportunity to enter someone's body in this way. The outside can be caressed in circles and mild probes. This is usually a very warm experience and helps relax the area. Stroke and massage around the anal opening, giving your partner time to relax into the feelings.
When you both are ready, find the center of the anus and press gently into it with your fingertip, while your partner relaxes and allows your finger into their body. Insertion is helped if the receiver pushes lightly out as if going to the bathroom. You may wish to gently move your finger back and forth. You should find that your finger goes further into your partner's body each time and then easily slides through into their rectum.
What to Do Once You're Inside
Once you get inside, you'll feel the thick, strong, muscular ring which is the anus, and beyond it the soft sides of the rectum. Keep at least your fingertip beyond the anus, or contraction of the muscle will cause the finger to pop out again. Tou can explore around, pushing your finger in as far as it'll go, curling it around the anus, flicking it back and forth. If you insert two fingers you can push them apart inside as a way to stretch and loosen the anus.
A few basic techniques to get you started are moving your finger in a circular motion exploring the walls of the rectum, moving in circular motions along a specific region, moving in and out, and rotating your hand to spin your finger. After learning what you can from these techniques, start mixing two, three or more of them together.
Here are some techniques specific for postillioning a woman or a man.
Man in Woman
Use your tongue to stimulate her clitoris and vulva at the same time as you gently massage the G-spot and other sensitive areas inside her vagina with one finger. At the same time, play with her anus, her anal canal, and gently on the wall of her rectum with another of your fingers. If you massage the wall of her rectum closest to her vagina, you may find that you can convey thrilling sensations through to her vagina. Of course, remember not to put a finger that has been up her anus into her vagina.
Woman in man
There are two very pleasurable spots in and around a man's anus. The first location is the anus itself, which is surrounded by a large number of nerve bundles and is very sensitive. The second is the prostate gland. It is located a few inches inside the anus towards the belly button, and often feels like a firm bulge.
If a man is lying on his back, the best way to massage his prostate is to hook a finger slightly upwards when you have penetrated his anus, and massage it with a fingertip. Be careful, though, because the exact amount of pressure you need to use to give a man maximum pleasure is something you can only establish by experience, so start gently and work harder as he expresses his pleasure. Try different movements of your fingertip, such as circles, strokes, and pressure. If you have a finger inside stimulating his prostate when he reaches an orgasm, you will send him to another world of pleasure, one that he will most likely be asking you to help him revisit. Prostate Massage for the Ultimate Male Orgasm tells how to give a man a more intense orgasm than he has ever experienced before.
Postillioning is a great introduction to anal sex. If you take your time, and let your partner get comfortable with the idea of anal play, you should eventually reach the point where they will seriously consider allowing you to try full anal penetration with a penis or dildo. When that time comes, following the 10 Steps to Great First-Time Anal Sex will ensure that the first time is a great time!
My book Anal Sex Secrets is a guide to great anal sex for both anal sex beginners and for couples who are searching for new things to try. To find out more about it, click here.