Anal Sex Secrets

3 MORE Advanced Anal Sex Techniques

2011-10-23T05:00:00.001-04:00

Anal sex is not everyone’s favorite sex act, but it is certainly high on the list for many couples and can be a fun change of pace for almost anyone who isn’t bothered too much by the taboos against it. Just the idea of anal sex can be exciting to beginners. However, after awhile, even anal sex can become routine. That’s why I wrote 5 Advanced Anal Sex Techniques – to give couples some ideas they could try once they were no longer anal sex beginners. Since then, I’ve discovered three more techniques that you might find fun and exciting, too.

1) Hot dogging

“Hot dogging” is an anal foreplay technique. I love this technique because it not only feels good to have a hard penis sliding between my buns (and I think it feels good to a man, too), but it also gets me excited, knowing what’s going to happen next. To do it, place your LUBED penis between her buns and rub the full length of your hard shaft up and down the crack of her ass. Then take the head and run it up and down her crack. After that, rub the head of the head around her anus and then, finally, push the tip inside her opening. This technique is a perfect lead-in to The Teasing Penetration Anal Sex Technique.

2) Scissors Position

To get into the Scissors position, the woman should lie on the bed on her side. Then she should extend her lower leg straight out and pull the knee of her top leg up to her chest. Place a few cushions or pillows under the knee of her top leg to support it. Then kneel over her lower extended leg and place one of your knees on either side of her lower extended leg. You can switch sides later if you want.
The Scissors position allows for satisfying deep penetration because her butt cheek bones and your pelvic bone do not get in the way. Plus, in this position, you have access to her entire body – BREASTS, back, sides, VAGINA, CLITORIS, legs, feet, neck, shoulders, and face. You can also vary the speed, depth, and angle very easily as you thrust in this position.

3) Anal Wall Massage

Start the anal wall massage with just the head of your penis inside her.. Then take hold of your shaft and begin to rotate the head of your penis around and around and around, just inside her opening. Then push in about an inch and repeat, rotating your penis around and around inside her. Continue to repeat this pushing in and rotating until you’re buried completely inside her ass. Once you’re completely inside, if you’re in the Scissors position, you can GENTLY rock your bodies back and forth. This rocking rubs your penis very gently inside her, which allows her to become accustomed to its size and hardness. (Each back-and-forth rocking feels like a mini-thrust.) If you follow the Teasing Penetration Anal Sex Technique with this technique, she should be ready to take it as hard and fast as you can give it to her.

Another way of of spicing up anal sex, though it’s not really a technique, is to reverse roles. My post Why Do Some Couples Enjoy Bend Over Boyfriend reveals how pegging can take your sex lives to a new and different level. These three anal sex techniques and most of the others I’ve written about are just as pleasurable for a male being penetrated as they are for females.

If you want a complete guide to making anal sex the fun, pleasurable experience it should be, Arouse Her Anal Ecstasy focuses on how to introduce a woman to anal sexuality with a pleasurable and painless detailed step-by-step system. This book teaches exactly what to do and how to do it. You will give her incredible orgasms by stimulating multiple erogenous zones, and she will love it!

The Teasing Penetration Anal Sex Technique

2011-07-02T06:00:00.001-04:00

The Teasing Penetration Anal Sex Technique is a method for gently introducing your man's penis into your body and getting you used to being entered. It is a much more effective way of preparing you for anal sex than fingering. This method should help you if you often experience discomfort or pain initially during anal penetration. Anal sex should never be uncomfortable or painful, and with the Teasing Penetration Anal Sex Technique, it won't be. Best of all, this method not only makes anal penetration more comfortable, but also is quite pleasurable for you and him!

Once you are in position and ready for penetration, grab the base area of your man's penis and gently caress your anus with the head. Just do light, circular motions around the opening. As you do this, every so often allow just the head of his penis to enter you. Squeeze it tightly with your sphincter muscle, release it, and go through the circular motions again. If done correctly, this should start to feel like teasing for both you and him. Yours is the circular motion, and for him, it is the almost getting in and being squeezed, but being denied the chance to slide all the way in.

After a little while, place the head of his penis inside you and then let go of the shaft and place one of your hands just under his belly button, but tell him not to move. With him in place and your hand gently holding him back from pushing, begin to squeeze the head of his penis. Squeeze and release rapidly while in this position. Remember, you are supposed to be caressing the head of his penis with your anus, so vary the tightness and speed. Your goal is to turn him on and drive him crazy.

Next, after doing a few of these, tell him to push in slightly - but only slightly. Give him the chance to do what he has been aching to do since you started, but make sure he only gets a little taste of what he wants. As he starts to slide himself inside of you, make sure you continue to cause friction by squeezing and releasing. This will give you a lot of pleasure, but also will feel very good for him.

It is entirely up to you how far in you allow him to go. It's best to only allow a partial insertion of the penis and then gently use your hand to push him back out. By now, he really wants to go for it, but making him wait a bit longer adds to the fun.

Once he is back to the original position with only his penis head inside you, it is up to you what you do with him. The longer you squeeze and release, the more ready you will be for him. When you feel ready, tell him to push himself all the way up inside you. Both of you will have been waiting for this moment to arrive as you increased your teasing. When he rams it up inside you (and he most likely will ram it), continue to squeeze and release your muscles around his entire penis. He will absolutely love this sensation, and he deserves it after holding out for so long.

The Teasing Penetration Anal Sex Techniques is not only a great way to prepare yourself for anal intercourse, but also a lot of sexy fun for both you and him. Experiment with the technique and make it your own. Don't be surprised if your man doesn't want to begin anal sex any other way!

If you want a complete guide to making anal sex the fun, pleasurable experience it should be, Arouse Her Anal Ecstasy focuses on how to introduce a woman to anal sexuality with a pleasurable and painless detailed step-by-step system. This book teaches exactly what to do and how to do it. You will give her incredible orgasms by stimulating multiple erogenous zones, and she will love it!

The 3 Best Anal Sex Positions for Intimacy

2010-10-10T06:00:00.003-04:00

Anal sex is an exciting way for a couple to explore each other sexually, creating new and intense sensations for both of you to enjoy. Anal sex can also be an exquisitely intimate act, in which a woman surrenders her body completely to her man. Whether you are experienced at anal sex, or you are trying it for the first time, these three positions will allow for greater intimacy between partners.

1) Side Anal is a good position for intimacy. With her lying on her side and you lying on your side behind her, she can relax her anus, and you can easily access the entire anal area. This is one of the best anal sex positions because it allows you to enter from behind, but still be able to wrap your arms around your lover. As you have her cuddled next to you, pleasure her with slow and gentle movements. Caress her shoulders and softly kiss her neck and back from this position. This will make her feel cherished and appreciated, creating a sense of intimacy and causing her to be filled with incredible pleasure!

2) Anal Drop (woman-on-top) With the man on his back, the woman climbs on top. This is one of the best anal sex positions because she can control the angle that you enter her, the intensity of the movements, and how deep she wants you inside of her. Since you want a highly pleasurable experience for her, be attentive to her needs. Look into her eyes, caress her arms and hands, and kiss her affectionately. Let her know how incredibly sexy and attractive she is to you because that, along with the anal sensations, will stimulate her to reach orgasm.

3) Missionary position (man on top, woman on bottom) is the best beginner position for anal sex. It allows the woman to fully relax her anus, making penetration much easier. The woman lies face up with a pillow under her pelvis and her legs pulled up. The man should kneel or lie facing the woman and insert his penis at an angle that is comfortable to both. This anal sex position is also the easiest one for her to climax in because her clitoris is stimulated by the friction from your penis rubbing against it as you are penetrating her beautiful bottom slowly and gently. Remember that this position also allows for deep, passionate kissing and caressing because of the face-to-face contact.

Anal sex should not lessen the love and respect shared between the two of you. These positions will help your woman,enjoy anal sex more by making her feel that she is giving herself to you and not just being "used." Naturally, the more she enjoys anal sex, the more she'll be willing to do it. Not only that, but the intimacy shared in your lovemaking will strengthen the bonds of your relationship.

If you want a complete guide to making anal sex the fun, pleasurable experience it should be, Arouse Her Anal Ecstasy focuses on how to introduce a woman to anal sexuality with a pleasurable and painless detailed step-by-step system. This book teaches exactly what to do and how to do it. You will give her incredible orgasms by stimulating multiple erogenous zones, and she will love it!

My First Anal Sex Experience

2010-07-03T05:00:00.002-04:00

My posts about anal sex have always been among my most popular with readers, especially my post 10 Steps to Great First-Time Anal Sex. However, my own first-time anal sex wasn't planned (at least by me) and didn't follow the ten steps.

My first anal experience happened during my senior year of high school. My mother was out of town on a business trip, so my boyfriend came over that afternoon after school. We drank my mother's vodka while we watched a movie. It didn't take long for both of us us to get pretty drunk (which helped a lot for what was about to come). Soon, we had forgotten about the movie and were in my bedroom, stripped down to our underwear, making out.

It wasn't long before my bra was off and then my panties. Almost as soon as my panties came off, my boyfriend started going down on me. Back then, being eaten out was my absolute favorite thing, so I just lay back, enjoying the wave of endorphins washing over me. Suddenly, I felt a sensation I hadn't felt before. My boyfriend was running his tongue along my perineum and getting closer to my anus with every lick. There was a part of me that wanted him to stop, but there was another part of me (the drunk part) that was telling me to relax and enjoy the sensations.

I had to admit that it felt good. My boyfriend did the trick where you blow on all the wet spots, and it was driving me crazy! He pushed my legs back even farther and dove right in, I'd never felt a tongue on that part of body - ever - but it felt incredible! He pushed his finger into my butt, and because it was so wet back there, it slid in easily.

When my boyfriend finally came up for air, I was afraid that he was going to try to kiss me. Instead he rolled me over on to my stomach so that I was lying flat on the bed. He pulled off his boxers, and then he climbed on top of me. I was really nervous about what he was going to do next (though I had a pretty good idea). Without saying a word, he pressed the head of his penis against my anus, and I remember whispering to myself, "Oh, my god. Oh, my god." He was really going to put it in my butt, but I wasn't as scared as I though I should be. I actually wanted it.

He used his legs to spread my legs wider. I felt him press harder against me, and then the head was in. He started very slowly, but after a few strokes, he pushed all the way in.

It felt very tight inside, and I thought he was going to rip me at first, but I took deep, deep breaths and did my best to relax. Fortunately, my boyfriend wasn't that big. If he had been any bigger, I don't think I would have been able to take it.

Although it still hurt, with every stroke it also began to feel good. It felt so good that I even put one hand underneath me and got myself off. (I'd never touched myself during partner sex before, so that was another first.) It was a very intense orgasm because of the amazing sensation of feeling him so deep inside me as my muscles contracted. My boyfriend came inside me right after I came .

Afterward, when I asked him how he knew I wouldn't make him stop, my boyfriend smirked and said, "When have you ever stopped me from doing something?" I didn't like his answer very much, but I had to admit he was right. Not long after, though, his cockiness caused him to go too far. To read about what happened, click here.

Postillioning: An Introduction to Anal Sex

2010-06-10T08:00:00.003-04:00

Men and women of all walks of life enjoy anal sex as an alternative to everyday lovemaking. Anal sex, practiced properly, is as safe as any other kind of sex, and it can be extremely pleasurable. The rectum and the rim of the anus are all rich sources of nerve endings. Postillioning is inserting a finger(s) into the anus, and may include massaging it and the rectum. Postillioning is a great way to help someone explore their rear and learn to loosen the anal opening.

The best way for you to insert a finger into your partner's anus

When your partner is getting aroused, begin to gently probe their anal opening with a finger tip, bearing in mind that you should have already lubed everything. Opening up for anal penetration can be a very intimate act, so respect the fact that you are being given the opportunity to enter someone's body in this way. The outside can be caressed in circles and mild probes. This is usually a very warm experience and helps relax the area. Stroke and massage around the anal opening, giving your partner time to relax into the feelings.

When you both are ready, find the center of the anus and press gently into it with your fingertip, while your partner relaxes and allows your finger into their body. Insertion is helped if the receiver pushes lightly out as if going to the bathroom. You may wish to gently move your finger back and forth. You should find that your finger goes further into your partner's body each time and then easily slides through into their rectum.

What to Do Once You're Inside

Once you get inside, you'll feel the thick, strong, muscular ring which is the anus, and beyond it the soft sides of the rectum. Keep at least your fingertip beyond the anus, or contraction of the muscle will cause the finger to pop out again. Tou can explore around, pushing your finger in as far as it'll go, curling it around the anus, flicking it back and forth. If you insert two fingers you can push them apart inside as a way to stretch and loosen the anus.

A few basic techniques to get you started are moving your finger in a circular motion exploring the walls of the rectum, moving in circular motions along a specific region, moving in and out, and rotating your hand to spin your finger. After learning what you can from these techniques, start mixing two, three or more of them together.

Here are some techniques specific for postillioning a woman or a man.

Man in Woman

Use your tongue to stimulate her clitoris and vulva at the same time as you gently massage the G-spot and other sensitive areas inside her vagina with one finger. At the same time, play with her anus, her anal canal, and gently on the wall of her rectum with another of your fingers. If you massage the wall of her rectum closest to her vagina, you may find that you can convey thrilling sensations through to her vagina. Of course, remember not to put a finger that has been up her anus into her vagina.

Woman in man

There are two very pleasurable spots in and around a man's anus. The first location is the anus itself, which is surrounded by a large number of nerve bundles and is very sensitive. The second is the prostate gland. It is located a few inches inside the anus towards the belly button, and often feels like a firm bulge.

If a man is lying on his back, the best way to massage his prostate is to hook a finger slightly upwards when you have penetrated his anus, and massage it with a fingertip. Be careful, though, because the exact amount of pressure you need to use to give a man maximum pleasure is something you can only establish by experience, so start gently and work harder as he expresses his pleasure. Try different movements of your fingertip, such as circles, strokes, and pressure. If you have a finger inside stimulating his prostate when he reaches an orgasm, you will send him to another world of pleasure, one that he will most likely be asking you to help him revisit. Prostate Massage for the Ultimate Male Orgasm tells how to give a man a more intense orgasm than he has ever experienced before.

Postillioning is a great introduction to anal sex. If you take your time, and let your partner get comfortable with the idea of anal play, you should eventually reach the point where they will seriously consider allowing you to try full anal penetration with a penis or dildo. When that time comes, following the 10 Steps to Great First-Time Anal Sex will ensure that the first time is a great time!

If you want a complete guide to making anal sex the fun, pleasurable experience it should be, Arouse Her Anal Ecstasy focuses on how to introduce a woman to anal sexuality with a pleasurable and painless detailed step-by-step system. This book teaches exactly what to do and how to do it. You will give her incredible orgasms by stimulating multiple erogenous zones, and she will love it!

Anal Sex for Beginners

2009-05-01T08:00:00.002-04:00

For many people, anal sex is the ultimate taboo. Many people are attracted to it precisely because it's so taboo and mysterious. Others haven't tried it yet and are curious.

What Is Anal Sex?
Anal sex is the act of placing a finger, an erect penis, or object into the anus of another person to give and receive sexual pleasure. Some people also enjoy oral stimulation of the anus, known as analingus or rimming.

Does Anal Sex Hurt?
Anal sex should not hurt. If it hurts, you're doing it wrong. With enough lubricant and enough patience, it's entirely possible to enjoy anal sex as a safe and fulfilling part of your sex life. If you follow these 10 Steps to Great First-Time Anal Sex, you can ensure that your first anal sex experience is pleasurable rather than painful.

Why Try Anal Sex?
For men and women, anal sex is a different, tighter sensation, it’s a little bit naughty, and it provides some variety to normal sex. The anus and the rectum are sensitive areas. There are a wealth of muscles and nerve endings around the anus, and the right kind of touch can feel fantastic. A woman's G-spot can also be stimulated indirectly through anal play as well, and anal orgasms are possible. Anal Sex from Female Perspective describes the erotic sensations a woman feels during anal penetration.

Anal Sex for Men
All men have a prostate gland that can be reached through the rectum. Many men have orgasms just from pressure on the prostate. Prostate Massage for the Ultimate Male Orgasm explains how to massage a man's prostate for his sexual pleasure. Some couples are even exploring male penetration by the female partner with a strap-on dildo, a sexual practice known as Bend Over Boyfriend or pegging.

As more and more of us explore various pleasure zones throughout ours and our lovers' bodies, the anus has received the attention it so richly deserves. In spite of (or is it because of) the pervasive taboo, anal eroticism can become an important part of your sex life, whether as main course or appetizer.

If you want a complete guide to making anal sex the fun, pleasurable experience it should be, Arouse Her Anal Ecstasy focuses on how to introduce a woman to anal sexuality with a pleasurable and painless detailed step-by-step system. This book teaches exactly what to do and how to do it. You will give her incredible orgasms by stimulating multiple erogenous zones, and she will love it!

5 Advanced Anal Sex Techniques

2009-04-29T14:00:00.002-04:00

According to a federal study released in 2005, 40 percent of men and 35 percent of women surveyed in 2002 said they have had anal sex with an opposite-sex partner. Given that five of my top ten posts all-time are about anal sex, I'm sure the numbers haveonly increased since then. That means that a lot of couples have moved beyond anal sex for beginners and are looking for way to make anal sex even hotter. Here are five advanced anal sex techniques to try.

1) Try different positions: on your back with your legs on his shoulders; both of you on your sides like spoons; you bent over the edge of the bed, him kneeling on the floor behind you, etc. Positions that require a lot of leg tension on your part are not as simple to do at first (standing, bent over, hands and knees, propped against a wall, squatting or kneeling over his penis, etc.), although they may give you more control of depth and thrusting (assuming you want control). One position I've grown to like is lying on my stomach with my hips raised a little on a pillow. I’m pinned down, so I just relax and let him do me.

2) Now that you know you can accept his penis, try alternately relaxing your anus when he thrusts into you, and then tightening slightly as he withdraws. This feels wonderful to both of you!

3) As a variation on (2) above, he can hold you to keep you from moving your body, slide deep into you, and, while not thrusting himself, have you squeeze and release with just your anal muscles until he ejaculates. Quite difficult, but worth it.

4) Have him deep inside your vagina before you or he inserts a butt plug. This suddenly makes your vagina seem much tighter, and then, of course, you can both enjoy the snug fit.

5) Don't always use the bedroom. With practice and repetition, you may find you don't need to go through as much preparation for anal sex. Some women, with a fair amount of experience, find they only need to apply some lubrication to their partner's penis and they are ready. Keep small packets of lubricant on you at all times since you never know when your partner may want to "bend you over."

As with all sex, the more you practice, the more enjoyable anal sex will be, since you get used to it and you know how to best enjoy it, what angles you need to use, and what tricks and techniques will make it most pleasurable. For those couples who've gotten past their initial concerns about trying anal sex and discovered how enjoyable it can be, advanced anal sex techniques can open up a whole new world of anal pleasure. Even though you are no longer anal virgins, you can still discover new erotic sensations.

If you want a complete guide to making anal sex the fun, pleasurable experience it should be, Arouse Her Anal Ecstasy focuses on how to introduce a woman to anal sexuality with a pleasurable and painless detailed step-by-step system. This book teaches exactly what to do and how to do it. You will give her incredible orgasms by stimulating multiple erogenous zones, and she will love it!

How to Have Anal Sex with a Big Penis

2009-04-27T14:00:00.002-04:00

Can a penis be too big for anal sex? Probably not, though size does matter. However, a big penis doesn't have to be a deal breaker. With proper preparation, enough lubrication, the right position, and relaxation techniques, having anal sex with a big penis can be comfortable and pleasurable.

1) Preparation. One way to prepare yourself for anal sex with a big penis is butt plugs. Get one butt plug as large as the diameter of your partner's penis and one or two smaller ones. Use the smaller ones as "trainers," if necessary, and work up to being able to insert the largest one. You can wear a butt plug during the day to prepare for anal sex that evening, or wait to insert it prior to foreplay. If you wear it while having vaginal sex, he will love how tight it makes your vagina feel. Once you're able to insert and wear the large butt plug, penetration with his penis should then be fairly comfortable.

2) Lubrication. Since the anal region is not self-lubricating, lubricants are essential to reduce friction and discomfort during anal sex, and even more so with a big penis. A good choice for anal sex is Astroglide, a super-smooth, long-lasting lubricant that can be found at many neighborhood pharmacies. Use as much lube as possible. You really can’t use too much.

3) Position. Though doggy-style may be the most popular anal sex position, it’s not necessarily the best one if your partner has a big penis. Missionary position (man on top, woman on bottom) allows the woman to fully relax her anus, making penetration much easier. Another good position is side anal or "spooning." The woman lies on one side, and the man approaches from the rear. The woman can relax her anus, and the man can easily access the entire anal area.

4) Relaxation. If you have pain when his penis is inserted, have your partner stop, but not pull out. He should just hold his position while you take several slow, deep breaths and relax the anal muscles. Pushing out (as you would for a bowel movement) will help to open those muscles and allow them relax against the penis. The pain should subside though you may still might feel some discomfort from having something pushing into you and being stretched open. Try to stay relaxed as he continues to push his penis in further. Any time it hurts, have your partner stop while you take slow, deep breaths, push out, and relax until the pain subsides.

If the man exercises patience and control, most women will be able to accommodate any size penis using the above techniques. The incredible sensations of fullness for a woman and tightness for the man make anal sex with a big penis worth the extra time and effort.

If you want a complete guide to making anal sex the fun, pleasurable experience it should be, Arouse Her Anal Ecstasy focuses on how to introduce a woman to anal sexuality with a pleasurable and painless detailed step-by-step system. This book teaches exactly what to do and how to do it. You will give her incredible orgasms by stimulating multiple erogenous zones, and she will love it!

How to Make Her Want Anal Sex

2009-04-25T08:00:00.002-04:00

Do you want to have anal sex with your wife or girlfriend, but are uncertain about her reaction? Many women are curious about anal sex, but are scared about comfort and safety issues. Some women who are unwilling to try anal sex with their current partner may have had a bad experience with an impatient or ignorant lover in the past. That's why I don't recommend asking a woman for anal sex without some careful preparation. Instead of asking her to try anal sex, it's better to make her want anal sex.

Anal sex can be very pleasurable for women because the rectum shares a wall with the vagina, and the sexual nerves are actually closer on that side, which makes the sensation unique, stronger and quite possibly orgasmic. My post Anal Sex from a Female Perspective describes what anal sex feels like for a woman. I am a firm believer that once a woman experiences the sensual pleasure that anal play can bring, she’ll allow you to explore the possibilities a little further, and, given sufficient time and patience, will eventually allow you to take it to the ultimate step of full anal penetration.

The key to the approach I recommend is to "train" her to associate anal sensations with sexual pleasure. The next time you’re going down on her (twice as many women orgasm from oral sex as from intercourse), move your hands around and cup her butt cheeks, squeeze and massage them, and then let your finger(s) wander into her crack a little bit. Get her to pull her legs back towards her head (so you can have better access to her vagina), and lightly bite/nibble around her butt in places you can reach, and run your tongue as close to her crack as you can comfortably (for you and her).

You must keep your eyes and ears open during this to gauge her response. If she moans a little louder, squirms a little bit more, or provides some other positive feedback, then go on to the next step. If she jerks away or gives you a negative reaction, don’t press the issue. Just try again the next time and hope for a more positive reaction.

If you’ve gotten your positive feedback, and are confident about proceeding, lube up a finger and slide it down into the crack of her butt and over her anus (this assumes she’s pulling her legs back for easy access). Don’t let it linger there. Just run it right over the anus slowly and see how she responds. Again, judge her reaction to decide whether or not you should proceed.

If you get another favorable reaction, try it again and this time, let your finger linger there, and perhaps perform some light massage on the anus, especially as you are performing cunnilingus on her. Her nerve endings will already be lit up down there, and everything in that area is interconnected anyway. As long as she doesn’t think you’re about to invade, you should get a noticeable increase in positive feedback.

Assuming you are successful, put a little lube on your finger and slowly, with circular motions, stroke the outside of her opening. Then gradually insert your finger inside the anus. Do not move it at first. Just allow her to enjoy the sensation of fullness in the anus.

Slowly insert the finger up to the end and make circular motions with the whole wrist, without moving the finger in and out. These motions will be felt in the vagina. While you're doing this, do something else, such kiss her breasts or stimulate her clitoris. Try to make her experience pleasurable. A woman who enjoys anal foreplay will eventually begin to give anal penetration some serious thought.

Getting her highly aroused goes a long way toward reducing inhibitions. If you take advantage of her uninhibited state, you can probably progress to the point where she’ll allow you to penetrate her anus with a finger, then two, and maybe even proceed to the point of using a small sex toy. The key here is to make sure that you don’t rush things. If you take your time, and let her get comfortable with the idea of anal play, you should eventually reach the point where she’ll seriously consider allowing you to try full anal penetration with your penis.

When she does, be sure to follow the 10 Steps to Great First-Time Anal Sex unless you want the first time to be the last time. A bad experience can turn her off to anal sex altogether - at least with you. On the other hand, anal sex can be one of the most erotic and satisfying sexual practices a woman can enjoy. It's a different, tighter sensation than vaginal sex, and, if the clitoris and/or vagina are stimulated while you're inside her, it can take her to another sexual realm.

If you want a complete guide to making anal sex the fun, pleasurable experience it should be, Arouse Her Anal Ecstasy focuses on how to introduce a woman to anal sexuality with a pleasurable and painless detailed step-by-step system. This book teaches exactly what to do and how to do it. You will give her incredible orgasms by stimulating multiple erogenous zones, and she will love it!

Bend Over Boyfriend: How to Make HIM Want Anal Sex

2009-04-23T10:00:00.001-04:00

More and more men are becoming interested in anal pleasure and comfortable with the idea of letting their female partners take control in bed. Bend Over Boyfriend (BOB) or pegging means that a woman uses a strap-on dildo to penetrate her male partner anally. Anal penetration stimulates the prostate gland, which is sometimes called the male “G-spot.” An orgasm from prostate stimulation can be the most intense a man can have.

Some couples enjoy the taboo of the woman penetrating her male partner. Many women also enjoy the role reversal of BOB and the feeling of being in control of their man’s pleasure. Some women can even have orgasms while penetrating their partner.

If you’re interested in exploring BOB with your partner, bring it up and see how he feels about it. If he's had anal sex with you, and you've enjoyed it, you have an advantage in persuading him that he would enjoy it, too. You can point out that you enjoy anal sex even though you don't have a prostate gland, so he's sure to enjoy it even more than you do. (That may not be altogether true, but it sounds logical.) Also, if you've already done some anal play with him during sex, you're that much closer to taking things one step further.

Even if he rejects the idea out of hand, you can use your feminine wiles to change his mind. The approach I recommend is similar to the one in my post How to Make Her Want Anal Sex except tailored for the male body. You will train” him to associate anal sensations with sexual pleasure because I’m a firm believer that, once a man experiences the sensual pleasure that anal play can bring, he’ll allow you to explore the possibilities a little further. Given sufficient time and patience, he will eventually allow you to take it to the ultimate step of full anal penetration with a strap-on dildo. For some men, though, there may be an additional obstacle to overcome, which I'll talk about later.

The best time to initiate anal play is when he is turned on and desperately wants you to keep on doing whatever you're doing. Now when do you think that might be? That's right - when you're giving him head. The next time you're sucking and licking his penis, let your finger(s) wander into his crack a little bit. Massage his perineum - the area between the scrotum and the anus.

Keep your eyes and ears open during this to gauge his response. If he moans a little louder, squirms a little bit more, or provides some other positive feedback, then go on to the next step. If he jerks away or gives you a negative reaction, don’t press the issue. Just try again the next time and hope for a more positive reaction.

If you’ve gotten your positive feedback, and are confident about proceeding, lube up a finger and slide it down into the crack of his butt and over his anus. Don’t let it linger there. Just run it right over the anus slowly and see how he responds. Again, judge his reaction to decide whether or not you should proceed.

If you get another favorable reaction, try it again and this time, let your finger linger there, and perhaps perform some light massage on the anus. Assuming you are successful, put a little lube on your finger and slowly, with circular motions, stroke the outside of his opening.

Then gradually insert your finger inside the anus. Do not move it at first. Just allow him to enjoy the sensation of fullness in the anus. Next, slowly insert the finger up to the end and make circular motions with the whole wrist, without moving the finger in and out. Try to make his experience pleasurable. The key here is to make sure that you don’t rush things.

Once your man has allowed you to penetrate him with a finger, the next step is to suggest a prostate massage. If you have to, you can stress the health benefits - especially if he's over 30 - and emphasize how much better it will be for you, rather than a doctor, to massage his prostate. My post Prostate Massage for the Ultimate Male Orgasm tells you how to give a man a much more intense orgasm than he may have ever experienced before.

After experiencing a sensual prostate massage, it won't take much persuading for some men to reach the conclusion that something bigger pressing against their prostate might feel even better than your fingers. However, don't go shopping for your strap-on just yet because for many men there will be one more big obstacle to overcome: the fear that if they enjoy penetration with a penis-shaped object that it means they're gay or that you will think they are.

Of course, the first fear only makes sense if you don't examine it too closely. By that reasoning, a straight man shouldn't enjoy oral sex since gay men do. Because all men have the same sexual parts, they're able to enjoy the same sensations. It's not what you do, but who you do it with that determines whether someone is straight or gay.

The second fear is trickier. BOB puts a man in an extremely vulnerable position, not only physically, but also psychologically. He may be afraid that if he allows you to bend him over, that you won't think of him as a real man anymore. You have to reassure him that what happens in the bedroom stays in the bedroom.

Once your man agrees to let you take him anally, follow the advice in my post How to Bend Over Your Boyfriend and Make Him Like It to ensure that it's a great experience for both of you. If you read some of the comments about the post, you'll see that he may be in for the sexual experience of his life, and you may be, too. Bend Over Boyfriend is a sexual practice that comes with deep potential for personal growth and really hot sex!

If you're like many people, you've had a satisfying sex life, but deep down you know there's something missing, something you still yearn for. You're looking for new heights of sexual satisfaction. Don't let another night pass without experiencing deep sexual bliss. Make today the day you take your lovemaking to unimagined levels of fulfillment. To learn Tantra sex tips that work, click here.

Anal Sex from a Female Perspective

2009-04-21T08:00:00.002-04:00

Anal sex is one of the most erotic and satisfying sexual practices a woman and her partner can enjoy. Anal sex is a different, tighter sensation than vaginal sex. The rectum, once it’s ready, literally swallows the penis up and can’t get enough. If the clitoris and/or vagina are stimulated while your man is inside you, it can take you to another sexual realm. It's pretty intense, no matter what, and the increased tightness back there makes it just that much better.

I still faithfully follow the 10 Steps to Great First-Time Anal Sex to ensure that the experience will be pleasurable rather than painful. Oral sex or even intercourse helps me to relax and feel at ease before engaging in anal sex. Something that really helps me to relax the anal sphincters is my partner rubbing my butt cheeks softly, spreading them, and then squeezing them together. That and him teasing my anus very slowly with his fingers and tongue makes sure I'm very ready.

As for positions, though doggie-style may be the most popular anal sex position, missionary position (man on top, woman on bottom) allows me to fully relax my anus, making penetration much easier. I describe my favorite variations in 3 Great Anal Sex Positions.

I like my partner to go very slowly while inserting his penis into me. First of all, it allows the anal sphincters to gradually adjust. Secondly, I love the erotic sensation of gradually being filled by his penis. It feels like I'm swallowing him. I really like to control the pace by being the one to slowly push back on him at the pace I'm ready to take him.

Anal penetration is an entirely different feeling than vaginal penetration. There's a lot more pressure just before actual penetration. First, there's an intense feeling of pressure as the head presses against you, which builds up a feeling of anticipation. Then there's a release of pure pleasure as the head slips through. You really notice the change in diameter as the head moves inside. You feel the length of the shaft sliding in with every nerve ending you can imagine. If you're relaxed enough, it feels amazing when he gets through the second sphincter.

One of the most exquisite sensations for me of anal sex is when he pulls out and then slides back in the first time. The in-stroke is intensely sensual. I love slow at first, but there comes a point where I want to him to speed up and just take me hard and fast. It's then that I feel completely full. The sensation is very different from having him in my vagina. Everything is so very tight, and the pressure is what causes the pleasure. The anal passage is being stimulated while at the same time there is pressure on my G-spot through the wall of the vagina.

I can orgasm rather quickly after penetration, especially since I usually rub my clitoris once he's inside me. it's an amazing feeling to squeeze my partner's penis as my anal muscles contract around him. I usually climax so hard and squeeze him so tightly that he has a hard time moving because the sensation is so intense for him. If he stays inside me after I've had one orgasm, I can usually have another although I prefer to return to a slower pace for a while until we build up again. When he ejaculates, it's much better because I can actually feel him shoot whereas, vaginally, I usually can't.

Anal sex can feel absolutely incredible. It's different in sensation - it's deep inside, it's not the clitoris, and isn't in the vagina, but feels strangely like both in a sort of mixed-up combination in another part of the body. It doesn’t feel like anything else you may have felt before. Women who don’t enjoy anal sex are probably doing it wrong.

If you want a complete guide to making anal sex the fun, pleasurable experience it should be, Arouse Her Anal Ecstasy focuses on how to introduce a woman to anal sexuality with a pleasurable and painless detailed step-by-step system. This book teaches exactly what to do and how to do it. You will give her incredible orgasms by stimulating multiple erogenous zones, and she will love it!

3 Great Anal Sex Positions

2009-04-19T08:00:00.002-04:00

Anal sex is a firm favorite with many men and women, and there are lots of sex positions in which you can try it. Two important aspects of a good anal sex position are that it allows the woman to be relaxed and physically comfortable, and that it gives the man access to the area. Because anal sex is a much slower form of penetrative sex, it’s important to find a position that you’re comfortable in and isn’t too taxing on your body. Below are three great anal sex positions.

1) Knees on Chest: The knees on chest position, with the woman lying on her back with her legs up, can be a great first-time sex position. Both partner’s bodies are close to the "ground," which allows for more relaxation and less work. It also allows for plenty of physical touching, which is so important to women during anal sex. Placing a pillow under the woman's lower back can be helpful.

2) Cocoon: If you've already tried anal sex, here's a position to get your man deeper inside than ever before. Lie on the bed with your bottom on the edge and your legs raised. Make sure you have a pillow or two under your pelvis to make it easier for him to penetrate your anus.

With your man standing in front of you, bend your knees and rest your feet on his chest while he begins to enter your anus very slowly. Once he's inside to the depth that's comfortable for you, speed up or slow down the thrusting as you like.

2) Jack Hammer: Even though the name suggests fast, hard thrusting, you can mix it up for varying sensations To perform the Jack Hammer, put some pillows underneath your butt and lower back, and then hoist both of your legs over your man's shoulders as he kneels between your legs.

Your man should take it easy to begin with and insert his penis an inch at a time, checking to make sure you're is comfortable at each stage. He doesn't even have to fully insert his penis in this anal position, as the tip of his penis will be squeezed by your tight anal sphincter muscles, which will be enjoyable for you too.

For men and women, anal sex is a different, tighter sensation than vaginal sex. It is also often a "first time for everything" type of activity which can also be nice - doing something you've never done before, ever. If you're considering trying anal sex for the first time, make sure that you follow the 10 Steps to Great First-Time Anal Sex. Practice makes perfect, and it’s the ability to maneuver oneself and try different styles that allows anal sex to be pleasurable.

If you want a complete guide to making anal sex the fun, pleasurable experience it should be, Arouse Her Anal Ecstasy focuses on how to introduce a woman to anal sexuality with a pleasurable and painless detailed step-by-step system. This book teaches exactly what to do and how to do it. You will give her incredible orgasms by stimulating multiple erogenous zones, and she will love it!

Analingus: The Dark Kiss

2009-04-17T10:00:00.002-04:00

Analingus, also known as the "dark kiss" or rimming, is oral stimulation of the anus. For many people, analingus is a sensuous experience, both on the giving and the receiving end. Some say there is nothing as arousing as having their lover’s warm, soft tongue and lips giving them pleasure in such an incredibly intimate place, and those who love to give it find the experience equally as arousing. Because the delicate pucker of the anus is packed with sensitive nerve endings, analingus can produce exquisite, erotic sensations.

Analingus can also be a great introduction to the sensation of anal penetration. For men and women who enjoy being penetrated, this is a delicious tease for the main course to come, and for men who aren’t sure about penetration, with analingus they can comfortably try out the sensation of anal stimulation to see if they might like it.

Cleanliness is even more of a issue with analingus than with traditional oral sex. Taking a bath or shower together is a relaxing form of foreplay and will allow your partner to get squeaky clean. You or your partner should thoroughly soap the butt and anus, inserting a finger into the rectum, and rinsing thoroughly with warm water.

The easiest position for analingus is doggie-style with the receiver on all fours. This way you can gently spread their cheeks with your hands, and see everything clearly as you dip your tongue in and out. Doggie-style licking also provides a fantastic rear view, and allows you to squeeze, rub, and pull on other areas as you lick. Those receivers with lower back pain or mobility issues can simulate the doggie position by lying on their stomachs with pillows under their hips, comfortably raising their butts for optimal licking.

With the delicate pucker of the anus in full view, gently kiss and lick their cheeks as they slope inwards toward the crack. Work your way closer into the furrow, taking your time to let them get used to the sensation, or to tease them if you know they like it. You can have your partner reach back and pull their own ass cheeks apart, which will greatly help you and make it less tiring and easier for you to lick.

You can make your first touch of the anus in several ways:

With softened lips, kiss it directly.
With the very tip of your tongue, lightly lick in a circle around the rim of the opening – "rimming" them.
Lick the entire furrow with a big, flat tongue from top to bottom like an ice cream cone.
Press your flattened tongue against the opening and hold it, and then slowly start to move it in an up and down or an in and out massage.

You can start with one of these and try them all out to see what they like. Since different people like different techniques, experiment with the ones below also to see which your partner enjoys the most.

Flicking: Gently flick the tip of the tongue across the outer rim of the anus.
Ringing the Bell: Push your tongue against the anus, and then remove it, as though you were ringing a doorbell.
Licking: Use your full tongue to lick completely across the anus.
Probing: Insert the tongue as far into the anus as you can, then probe around with the tip. After a bit of gentle probing, the sphincter muscles should start to relax and welcome deeper exploration.

Many people won't orgasm by anal sex alone, so you should keep analingus fairly brief or keep them stimulated in some other way at the same time.

Analingus is one of the most intimate of all sexual acts. If both partners approach it with openness and enthusiasm, they will be rewarded with unparalleled enjoyment whether analingus is the main course, a spicy side dish, or an appetizer for anal penetration.

If you want a complete guide to making anal sex the fun, pleasurable experience it should be, Arouse Her Anal Ecstasy focuses on how to introduce a woman to anal sexuality with a pleasurable and painless detailed step-by-step system. This book teaches exactly what to do and how to do it. You will give her incredible orgasms by stimulating multiple erogenous zones, and she will love it!

Why Do Some Couples Enjoy Bend Over Boyfriend?

2009-04-15T10:00:00.001-04:00

Bend Over Boyfriend (BOB) or pegging means that a woman uses a strap-on dildo to penetrate her male partner anally. Why do some couples enjoy Bend Over Boyfriend? There are many reasons for practicing this sex activity, but the most common one is that Bend Over Boyfriend allows a man to receive anal pleasure. More and more men are becoming interested in anal pleasure and comfortable with the idea of letting their female partners take control in bed.

Anal penetration stimulates the prostate gland, which is sometimes called the male "G-spot."An orgasm from prostate stimulation can be the most intense a man can have. Anal pleasure isn't the only benefit of pegging for men though. Being penetrated can be a profound emotional, psychological, and spiritual experience. Here's how some male readers responded to my post How to Bend Over Your Boyfriend and Make Him Like It:

For those who may have not tried this be assured many men really desire it and it is not because they have homosexual tendencies or are secretly gay. It is simply that the feelnig is fantastic. Also the relinquishment of control to your female partner is very empowering for them. Above the intensity of male orgasm is much ehnhanced and the extent of ejaculation often much more than in standard sexul acts - try it !! - masok

Excellent Post.

I find that starting with some fingering is a great way to get things going, and when she inserts her finger in your anus you will feel a sense of connection to her that you could have never imagined until you do this.

My favorite position is that modified missionary position with the pillow, but I love to finish lying on my stomach, with her pressing her body against my back, incredible! - Marcello

Nice article, and I’m with you 100%. As a straight married couple, strap-on play has been a part of playtime for a few years. There is a freaky feeling when Mrs Kink orgasms while taking me… quite the role reversal. I also think that she’s surprised every time I “beg” for more, by moving backwards into her as you accurately describe. Thumbs up from us. =) - Mr. Kink

As the above comment indicates, women enjoy pegging their men as much as their men enjoy being pegged. Here's how two women describe their experience.

For me there was a strange feeling of real power when I looked down for the first time and saw a nice cock jutting out from between my legs. I surprised my man by making him suck my “cock” before I fucked him. It was so hot. He was also surprised when he climaxed with touching himself. He said that the sight of me fucking him, the feelings in his ass, and watching my tits bounce were all too much for him and he just came and came. I climaxed also from the power thing and the stimulation of the base of the dildo on my clit when I pounded into him. I totally recommend this if he has any interest in anal play at all. - Toni

This is an excellent article. One of the things I remember when i tried this with an ex was how I didn’t really have a good way to tell what was going on “down there.” Without the sense of touch to tell me how hard or soft I was doing things, I started out really nervous about hurting him. A step by step set of instructions like the ones above would have helped. Of course, with his direction I got into it eventually and we had a GREAT time. - Misty (Miss K)

Any sort of anal sex requires tremendous trust and a lot of communication. If you’re interested in exploring BOB, bring it up and see how your partner feels about it. Choose your time wisely, and be prepared for some hesitation at first. There is an element of role reversal and gender bending with BOB, and people can have unexpected reactions at first. Bend Over Boyfriend is a sexual practice that comes with deep potential for personal growth and really hot sex!

If you're like many people, you've had a satisfying sex life, but deep down you know there's something missing, something you still yearn for. You're looking for new heights of sexual satisfaction. Don't let another night pass without experiencing deep sexual bliss. Make today the day you take your lovemaking to unimagined levels of fulfillment. To learn Tantra sex tips that work, click here.

How to Bend Over Your Boyfriend and Make Him Like It

2009-04-13T10:00:00.001-04:00

While it still remains taboo in some circles, heterosexual anal sex seems to be gaining in popularity, and some couples are even exploring male anal penetration by the female partner, a sexual practice known as Bend Over Boyfriend (BOB) or pegging. These days more and more men are becoming interested in anal pleasure and comfortable with the idea of letting their female partners take control in bed.

If you’ve decided to make your boyfriend’s or husband's strap-on fantasies come true, you need to get the right equipment: a sturdy strap-on dildo and a reliable harness to hold it in place. When starting out, it’s best to choose a dildo on the smaller side, for comfort’s sake. A dildo of 5 to 6 inches in length and 1 to 1.5 inches in diameter should be an adequate size for your first strap-on. Choose a dildo that has a flange at the base that will secure it in a harness, and buy a sturdy harness with adjustable straps, preferably one of leather, vinyl, or other strong material.

Some dildos have an upward curve or special shape designed to stimulate the prostate. The prostate gland is located between the wall of the rectum and the bladder and is about the size of a walnut. It is the male equivalent of a woman’s G-spot, and stimulating it can greatly increase the intensity of the man’s orgasm, and sometimes the force or quantity of his ejaculation. While prostate stimulation can be achieved with a standard dildo, having the angle built in makes it that much easier to hit your man's hot spot.

Once you have your strap-on firmly in place, apply a generous amount of water-based lubricant to the head and shaft of the dildo and to his anus. You may even want to massage the lube into his hole with a finger or two to help relax his sphincter. If you really want to dominate your boyfriend, make him apply the lube to your dildo and his anus himself.

Once you're all lubed up, steady the dildo with one hand and place the head squarely against his anus. The most comfortable position for anal sex is with him lying face up with a pillow under the small of his back and his legs pulled up. You then enter him from on top, in a missionary-style position. In this position, you can kiss him, squeeze his nipples or stroke his penis. However, many couples like having the man bend over something that is less than waist height - a table, a chair, the bed, etc. - or take it doggy-style because these are more submissive postures.

Keeping a grip on the shaft of your dildo, guide the head directly into his anus and gently push it inside him. Instruct him to bear down as if going to the bathroom while you do this, to open up his sphincter muscles. Once the head of the dildo disappears (or the dildo enters into him about an inch or two), pause and let him get used to the feeling of having something up there. Then place your hands on his hips and begin pushing forward steadily until the dildo is all the way in. Take a couple of breaths and let his sphincter adjust and relax. Pull part way out slowly and push back in. Pull out, push in. Continue doing this, increasing your speed and force as you go.

Essentially what you are doing is massaging his prostate gland. Not only will he enjoy this, but it will also make his penis start dripping, and he may even ejaculate without direct penile stimulation. You can increase the stimulation by exerting pressure on the dildo in the direction of the prostate so that the shaft rubs more firmly against it. Also, concentrating your thrusting motions in short, rapid movements will provide more stimulation against that area.

Keep a steady rhythm going, but pay attention to the intensity of his moans and groans, the speed of his breathing, and his body’s actions. Communication is important, so be sure he lets you know what he wants and tells you if he feels any discomfort. Though you may be afraid of hurting him, if he’s begging you to pound him and pushing himself back onto your dildo, it’s a sign to let yourself go. You may find yourself surprised at how turned on you get when you allow yourself to enjoy the feeling of being in control.

Beyond male anal pleasure, there is a lot to explore in the area of role reversals with BOB. It’s a chance to explore the ways you feel - masculine and feminine, bottom and top - and a chance to relate to your partner in a completely different way. Bend Over Boyfriend is a sexual practice that comes with deep potential for personal growth and really hot sex!

If you're a woman who is turned on by the idea of pegging your man, but he's not so eager, try the tips in my post Bend Over Boyfriend: How to Make HIM Want Anal Sex. You may be shopping together for a strap-on sooner than you think!

If you're like many people, you've had a satisfying sex life, but deep down you know there's something missing, something you still yearn for. You're looking for new heights of sexual satisfaction. Don't let another night pass without experiencing deep sexual bliss. Make today the day you take your lovemaking to unimagined levels of fulfillment. To learn Tantra sex tips that work, click here.

Prostate Massage for the Ultimate Male Orgasm

2009-04-11T08:00:00.001-04:00

Usually, we consider the penis to be the only male sex organ, but the prostate is a man's other sexual organ. The prostate is a gland of the male reproductive system located underneath the bladder and just in front of the rectum. Widely considered to be the male equivalent of the female G-spot, there is a lot of pleasure to be had from the prostate. When performed correctly, a prostate massage can give a man a much more intense orgasm than he has ever experienced before.

Since a man already associates pleasure with his penis, the key to making a prostate massage work for your man is to arouse him by giving him a genital massage at the same time. That way, prostate sensations will also be associated with sexual pleasure. Begin by caressing his penis with both hands. Keep the stimulation on his penis going even as one of your hands starts moving down towards his anus. His erection may come and go, but the genital stimulation should continue.

Don't rush into the penetration part of prostate massage. Start with an external massage of the prostate. The perineum is located between the testicles and above the anus and most men find that massaging it is very pleasurable and relaxing. Next, massage his anus using a rhythmic, circular motion. You can gently push on the anus, as if you're ringing a doorbell, without forcing your finger inside. This will help relax the anal sphincter.

Ask him if he's ready for you to "come inside." If he is, apply lubricant to your man's anus and onto your middle or index finger. Then slowly penetrate him with your finger as far as you can go. Once inside, rest a moment while he gets used to the sensation of having something in his anus. Once you’re both comfortable and your finger is fully inside, slowly and carefully curl your finger. You should be able to feel a small, firm bump about the size of a walnut on the uppermost side of his anal passage, in the direction of his navel. This is his prostate gland.

Once you have found the prostate, press or stroke the gland along its sides in a rhythmic motion with the pad of your finger, not your nail. Do not massage the central (top) area because it contains several sensitive nerves. The maximum amount of pressure you should apply would be equal to the amount of pressure you would rub your eye with. Try different forms of stimulation: slight pressure, firm pressure, moving your fingers in small circles, stroking, or maybe even vibrations. By experimenting with different types of stimulation, you will identify what feels best to your man.

By applying more or less pressure to the prostate gland, you can learn to control your man's sensations, even to the point of inhibiting him from ejaculating. The ability to control ejaculation through prostate massage allows for nearly unending stimulation of the his genitals. Pressing on the prostate while he ejaculates can increase intensity of his orgasm even more.

A prostate massage can be very erotic and intense for both partners. It's a very intimate sexual practice that brings a couple closer sexually. You will be learning and putting trust in each other while sharing a new experience.

These days more and more men are becoming interested in anal pleasure and comfortable with the idea of letting their female partners take control in bed, and some couples are even exploring male anal penetration by the female partner, a sexual practice known as Bend Over Boyfriend (BOB) or pegging. If you have never tried (or even heard of) this sexual practice, read my tutorial How to Bend Over Your Boyfriend and Make Him Like It.

If you're like many people, you've had a satisfying sex life, but deep down you know there's something missing, something you still yearn for. You're looking for new heights of sexual satisfaction. Don't let another night pass without experiencing deep sexual bliss. Make today the day you take your lovemaking to unimagined levels of fulfillment. To learn Tantra sex tips that work, click here.

10 Steps to Great First-Time Anal Sex

2009-04-09T14:00:00.001-04:00

Many people believe that anal intercourse hurts and that it is always an uncomfortable experience. This is quite simply false. If it hurts, you're doing it wrong. Actually, anal intercourse can provide a unique form of pleasure for both men and women. Anal sex is enjoyable for men because the tight anal sphincter rings provide strong sensations to a thrusting penis.

Generally, for women, the pleasure derived from anal intercourse is due to the shared nerve endings located between the rectal wall and the vagina, and/or from indirect stimulation of the G-spot. The anus contains many nerves as well, which can also react in a pleasurable manner when excited. My post Anal Sex from a Female Perspective describes what anal sex feels like for a woman. If you want to try anal sex with your wife or girlfriend, but are uncertain of her reaction, use the approach I recommend in How to Make Her Want Anal Sex.

If you follow the ten steps below, you can ensure that your first anal sex experience is pleasurable rather than painful.

1) Get clean. It goes without saying that if you're sexually stimulating an area that's usually devoted to elimination, you need to ensure that it's squeaky clean. Have a relaxing bath or shower beforehand and thoroughly clean the area. If you're self-conscious about your lover seeing your anus in full for the first time, why not gently shave or wax the skin between your butt cheeks? You'll be surprised how much more relaxed and confident this will make you.

2) Don’t rush into it. Engaging in foreplay or even intercourse before trying anal sex for the first time can help you relax. Analingus (oral-anal contact) is another great way to "warm-up" the anus and can be very pleasurable in and of itself. Run your tongue over the anus, licking it in soft, wet strokes, or circle it, running your tongue around the edge of it slowly and delicately. Flick the tip of your tongue rapidly over the opening, or try inserting your tongue as far as it will go pushing and stroking it back and forth. Try brushing your lips over the spot or sucking hard on the anus.

3) Use lots of lubricant. Since the anal region is not self-lubricating, anal lubricants are extremely helpful for making penetration more comfortable and pleasurable. Water-based and silicone-based lubes work well with both latex and polyurethane condoms. Many couples prefer a thicker lube (a "gel" rather than a “liquid") for anal sex. Use as much lubricant as possible. You really can’t use too much.

4) Fingers first. The sphincter muscles around the anus will not allow things to pass through easily unless you start small and take it slowly. Apply lube to one finger and gently insert it without moving it around in order to condition her to the sensation of something being in her anus. Once she is comfortable with being dilated, slowly start to move your finger in and out and around. Gently stretch her anus by pushing outward on her anal ring, as if it was the center of a clock face, pressing out towards 1, 2, 3 o'clock, etc. Once she has learned to enjoy the insertion of a single finger, try inserting a second. Always go very slowly and be sure she remains relaxed. Don't forget to use lube on each finger you insert.

5) Get in position. Choosing the best position may make the difference between a painful or pleasurable experience. Though doggie-style may be the most popular anal sex position, it’s not necessarily the best one for beginners. Missionary position (man on top, woman on bottom) allows the woman to fully relax her anus, making penetration much easier. My article Which Anal Sex Positions Are Best for Beginners? describes several anal sex positions, and tells you which ones are best for beginners and why.

6) Enter slowly. When you're ready for penetration, take one or both of your hands and use your fingers to pull your butt cheeks gently apart. This will help guide him into your anus without too much prodding, making it a lot easier for both of you. He should begin by slowly and gently inserting the tip of his penis into your anus. Remember that it's normal to feel some discomfort or even slight pain because it's your first time (just like with first-time vaginal sex) though if you're in a great deal of pain or feel very uncomfortable, ask your partner to stop immediately.

7) Go deeper. Once your partner has inserted the tip of his penis, ask him to slowly penetrate your anus further, but at a gentle pace that you feel comfortable with. This means it could take anywhere from 30 seconds to five minutes before his penis is fully inserted. Breathing deeply and talking him through what you’re feeling will help keep you both stay relaxed. Continue like this until his penis is fully submerged.

8) Gradually build momentum. Once his penis is fully inserted, the key to great anal sex varying the angle, depth, and speed of thrusting and gradually building up momentum. Clenching your anus can enhance the sensation for your partner.

9) Don't forget the rest of her body. Stimulating other parts of her body during anal sex can help make her feel more relaxed and provide a greater thrill for both of you. While thrusting in and out, reach around and finger her clitoris. While orgasm may occur purely from the anal sex, this added stimulation will lead to a more intense sexual experience.

10) At the end. Immediately following climax, she may become extremely sensitive to penetration. Thrusting or pulling out should be done very gently after orgasm. Also, remember that once your penis has been inside the rectum, don't put it inside anywhere else until you have washed yourself.

These days more and more men are becoming interested in anal pleasure and comfortable with the idea of letting their female partners take control in bed, and some couples are even exploring male anal penetration by the female partner, a sexual practice known as Bend Over Boyfriend (BOB) or pegging. If you have never tried (or even heard of) this sexual practice, read my tutorial How to Bend Over Your Boyfriend and Make Him Like It.

Anal sex is one of the most erotic and satisfying sexual practices you and your partner can enjoy. It may take some time to get it just right, but if you follow these 10 steps, you will both have lots of fun trying. The most important aspect of anal sex is communication, so be sure to talk to your partner about your anal desires before, during, and after your first session of anal sex.

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Why Do Some Couples Enjoy Anal Sex?

2009-04-07T08:00:00.002-04:00

Men and women of all walks of life enjoy anal sex as an alternative to everyday lovemaking. It's not for everyone, but anal sex may be what you're looking for if you want to try something different. Though anal sex for many seems like a taboo activity, and much of society still shuns it, statistics show that roughly 35% of heterosexuals practice anal sex at least occasionally.

Anal sex is enjoyable for men because the tight anal sphincter rings provide strong sensations to a thrusting penis. Generally, for women, the pleasure derived from anal intercourse is due to the shared nerve endings located between the rectal wall and the vagina, and/or from indirect stimulation of the G-spot. The anus contains many nerves as well, which can also react in a pleasurable manner when excited. My post Anal Sex from a Female Perspective describes what anal sex feels like for a woman. If you want to try anal sex with your wife or girlfriend, but are uncertain of her reaction, use the approach I recommend in How to Make Her Want Anal Sex.

Another attraction of anal sex is that it is much more forbidden and not so popular among heterosexuals as vaginal sex or even oral sex. The thrill of breaking a taboo and venturing into forbidden territory is exciting and sexually stimulating for some people. They like the idea of pushing the sexual envelope and being daring and naughty.

For couples trying anal sex for the first time, choosing the best position may make the difference between a painful or pleasurable experience. Though doggie-style may be the most popular anal sex position, it's not necessarily the best one for beginners. My article Which Anal Sex Positions Are Best for Beginners? describes several anal sex positions, and tells you which ones are best for beginners and why. To make your first anal sex experience a great one, follow my 10 Steps to Great First-Time Anal Sex.

These days more and more men are becoming interested in anal pleasure and comfortable with the idea of letting their female partners take control in bed, and some couples are even exploring male anal penetration by the female partner, a sexual practice known as Bend Over Boyfriend (BOB) or pegging. If you have never tried (or even heard of) this sexual practice, read my tutorial How to Bend Over Your Boyfriend and Make Him Like It.

Anal sex should not hurt. If it hurts, you're doing it wrong. While people often experience pain when first attempting anal sex, as a person learns to relax, the pain often subsides into pleasure. With enough lubricant and enough patience, it's entirely possible to enjoy anal sex as a safe and fulfilling part of your sex life.

If you want a complete guide to making anal sex the fun, pleasurable experience it should be, Arouse Her Anal Ecstasy focuses on how to introduce a woman to anal sexuality with a pleasurable and painless detailed step-by-step system. This book teaches exactly what to do and how to do it. You will give her incredible orgasms by stimulating multiple erogenous zones, and she will love it!

Which Anal Sex Positions Are Best for Beginners?

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Many women are curious about anal sex, but are scared about comfort and safety issues. Some women who are unwilling to try anal sex with their current partner may have had a bad experience with an impatient or ignorant lover in the past.

However, anal sex can be very pleasurable for women because the rectum shares a wall with the vagina, and the sexual nerves are actually closer on that side, which makes the sensation unique, stronger and quite possibly orgasmic. My post Anal Sex from a Female Perspective describes what anal sex feels like for a woman. If you want to try anal sex with your wife or girlfriend, but are uncertain of her reaction, use the approach I recommend in How to Make Her Want Anal Sex.

For those couples trying anal sex for the first time, choosing the best position may make the difference between a painful or pleasurable experience.

1) Doggie Style is probably the most commonly thought of anal sex position. The woman kneels on all fours, and the man approaches from the rear. Though this is the most common anal position, it's not necessarily the most comfortable, or the best beginner position, as the woman tends to tighten up her anus in this position.

2) Flying Doggie is a variation of the popular doggie style position. The man stands behind the woman and places his feet outside the legs of the woman. You'll find that the man will be positioned higher and will be inserting into the anus in a more downward fashion.

3) In the Wheelbarrow position, the man approaches the woman from behind, similar to doggie stye, but lifts the woman's legs into the air. The woman must support herself with her arms only, or lie flat on a bed or chair.

4) The Anal Drop position puts the woman on top and the man on the bottom. You might think that this would be the best beginner position since it gives the woman control over the depth and speed of penetration, but being on top causes the woman to involuntarily tighten up her anus, making penetration difficult.

5) In the Anal Kama Sutra position, the man lies flat on his back with the woman on top, facing the man's feet. The woman should lean as far toward the feet as possible and then commence pumping. This angle tends to maximize anal pleasure for the woman while delaying orgasm for the man.

6) Side Anal is a good beginner position. The woman lies on one side, and the man approaches from the rear. The woman can relax her anus, and the man can easily access the entire anal area.

7) The Missionary position (man on top, woman on bottom) is the best beginner position for anal sex. It allows the woman to fully relax her anus, making penetration much easier. The woman lies face up with a pillow under her pelvis and her legs pulled up. The man should kneel or lie facing the woman and insert at an angle that is comfortable to both. In this position, the woman can relax several muscles necessary for pleasurable anal sex.

Women are often just as excited as men to be venturing into the anal aspect of sex. Many couples find that anal sex is a tremendous tool to enhance their regular sex activities. It's a unique feeling that is completely different to vaginal sex and worth experimenting with.

If you want a complete guide to making anal sex the fun, pleasurable experience it should be, Arouse Her Anal Ecstasy focuses on how to introduce a woman to anal sexuality with a pleasurable and painless detailed step-by-step system. This book teaches exactly what to do and how to do it. You will give her incredible orgasms by stimulating multiple erogenous zones, and she will love it!